tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28989955.post6480153841914843563..comments2023-10-30T14:34:16.722-07:00Comments on Men Need Feminism: Molly Ivins, I Hardly Knew YouJeff Pollethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13789663140920958914noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28989955.post-31520607202366186082007-05-05T19:59:00.000-07:002007-05-05T19:59:00.000-07:00Jeff - I appreciate what you said very much! I t...Jeff - I appreciate what you said very much! I think that often - we turn our anger and pain - outward. We punch the wall in frustration and anger. We yell at others.<BR/><BR/>We seem to miss something here! I may say within myself: "I'm hurting", but more commonly I may say: "B's done this to me" or "the kids are too Noisy" or similar.<BR/><BR/>It seems hard for me as a man - to just say: "I'm in pain" as opposed to "X did Y to me".<BR/><BR/>I also see "crazy men" and "crazy women" differently. "Crazy women" don't anonymously kill - as the recent tragedy showed some men do. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps I'm missing somthing - but most of the "crazy women" I see are clearly pathological as a result of fairly definable causes - related to (physical/sexual) abuse, mental illness, substance abuse etc.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps I'm overstepping things, but while some men seem similarly dysfunctional, other men seem to be sadly alone - isolated - different not in these ways in general. <BR/><BR/>I think, for example, of a friend of my brother's, in his 60's - single - very, very religious as my brother is - a "weirdo" - in my mind. <BR/><BR/>This man is no danger to anyone. He, as I suspect many of us men, lives a life emotionally distant from others - not having the bonds of: mothers, sisters, daughters etc. or other ties that a fair number of women have.<BR/><BR/>I can't put my hand on this fully, but it feels like it's ok - for us, as men, to stay apart -emotionally distant - our role as "a man" doesn't necessarily push us to build ties emotionally with others - except perhaps as the "Mama's Boy" or other (generally derogatory- largely passive) roles.<BR/><BR/>It shouldn't be the woman's responsibility to bond with us men unless their is a mutuality and a tie that is affirming for her.<BR/><BR/>Where do we have the responsibility? In my high school class many years ago there was a "slow boy" - Bobby - who was called "toad" - by others. <BR/><BR/>Bobby later committed suicide somewhere in the 25-35 age range. Obviously none of us connected with him. Should we as men - have a responsibility? I don't know.<BR/><BR/>Thanks again! Sorry at my ramblings so far afieldgeohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13454863293588730573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28989955.post-82977004095783657982007-05-04T11:01:00.000-07:002007-05-04T11:01:00.000-07:00hmmm...maybe I should burn my copy of Sex, Art and...hmmm...maybe I should burn my copy of Sex, Art and American Culture<BR/>-mMollygrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16698868250829818934noreply@blogger.com