Naomi Wolf vs. Jaclyn Friedman: Feminists Debate the Sexual Allegations Against Julian Assange(Note: You have to sit through 2 minutes of pledge drive before the 10 minute video begins...)
Shorter Naomi Wolf: It's not rape if you don't repeatedly say no, even if you're being threatened and held down.
Shorter Naomi Wolf: It's not rape if he starts putting his cock in you while you're asleep.*
It's much more apparent to me now why Friedman and Valenti named their book Yes Means Yes. If somebody like Wolf who has worked with survivors for so many years can get consent so wrong, I just don't know how we're going to shift cultural norms around rape. Perhaps if Wolf had spent less time during the interview expressing how offended she is, while providing a litany of experience, her "arguments" would be more clear to me...
*of course, if such a scenario is talked about ahead of time, and asked for with an enthusiastic "yes!", that's different.