"The women of Bikini Kill let guitarist Billy Karren be in their feminist punk band, but only if he's willing to just "do some shit." Being a feminist dude is like that. We may ask you to "do some shit" for the band, but you don't get to be Kathleen Hannah."--@heatherurehere


Showing posts with label blog against sexism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label blog against sexism. Show all posts

Thursday, March 08, 2007

How Have You Spoken Up?

In honor of International Women's Day and Blog Against Sexism Day, I ask y'all:

What have You done to speak out against sexism? This is addressed to people of all genders out there, but as I think that it's important for men to address other men in this regard, this is especially for the men--when have you spoken out to other men against sexism toward women? (Yes, MRA readers, sexism is more complex than men-are-sexist-women-aren't, but in the spirit of International Women's Day, leave it at the door, please.)

One important little thing that happened in my life along these lines:
I have two bosses, one man and one woman, and together they own the company I work for. Oftentimes, when a man asks a question like "How does Lisa like working for Bob," I have to point out (gently, usually) that they both own the company, and that the question is more appropriately addressed to me. I also often have to point out that she is not his secretary.

This is sometimes not easy to do in a 'professional' situation. One doesn't want to make one's clients look stupid. But it's also not an option to make it a jokey situation. So I try to do it professionally, seriously, without a lot of shaming thrown in. It's a fine line between correcting and shaming sometimes.

I think that this sort of 'little' examples add up in the world, and the more men that are aware of this sort of thing the better. It's not *all* I want to do to fight sexism, but it's a day-to-day thing that needs to be done.

So: How have you spoken up?