"The women of Bikini Kill let guitarist Billy Karren be in their feminist punk band, but only if he's willing to just "do some shit." Being a feminist dude is like that. We may ask you to "do some shit" for the band, but you don't get to be Kathleen Hannah."--@heatherurehere

Thursday, March 08, 2007

How Have You Spoken Up?

In honor of International Women's Day and Blog Against Sexism Day, I ask y'all:

What have You done to speak out against sexism? This is addressed to people of all genders out there, but as I think that it's important for men to address other men in this regard, this is especially for the men--when have you spoken out to other men against sexism toward women? (Yes, MRA readers, sexism is more complex than men-are-sexist-women-aren't, but in the spirit of International Women's Day, leave it at the door, please.)

One important little thing that happened in my life along these lines:
I have two bosses, one man and one woman, and together they own the company I work for. Oftentimes, when a man asks a question like "How does Lisa like working for Bob," I have to point out (gently, usually) that they both own the company, and that the question is more appropriately addressed to me. I also often have to point out that she is not his secretary.

This is sometimes not easy to do in a 'professional' situation. One doesn't want to make one's clients look stupid. But it's also not an option to make it a jokey situation. So I try to do it professionally, seriously, without a lot of shaming thrown in. It's a fine line between correcting and shaming sometimes.

I think that this sort of 'little' examples add up in the world, and the more men that are aware of this sort of thing the better. It's not *all* I want to do to fight sexism, but it's a day-to-day thing that needs to be done.

So: How have you spoken up?
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